Political Correct Shaming

The following I found on the website “Baconbits”    ( http://baconbitsshow.com/ ) and include it here with permission of the writer.

The Baconbits Show Website

SJW Watch

Don’t Be Afraid of a Little Shame

FAt-1170x878

It’s the latest SJW craze and they aren’t stopping with fat acceptance. They are on a crusade to completely erase the concept of shame from society. And it won’t end well.

How does the country reconcile our desire to live forever, to end all injuries, to avoid all things unhealthy, with the politically correct movement for fat acceptance? How does it happen that our schools will ban tag because it can be too rough and cause bruises, that mothers worry about concussions from soccer and football games, that bicycle helmet laws are taken so seriously, that smoking makes you literally Hitler, but this same society would applaud if these well-protected children grew up obese?

And what happens to a society when you remove the concept of shame entirely from the culture?

In recent years tacking the word “shaming” onto a word is supposed to indicate that someone is engaging in a behavior that was previously discouraged, or disapproved of, but which is now completely acceptable. Slut-shaming, fat-shaming, etc.. But isn’t it healthy to have a little shame? Isn’t it ok, as individuals and as a culture, to be ashamed sometimes? Doesn’t the very concept of shame limit us from doing things that are bad for us or for the community at large? Should we really be proud of being fat? Of being promiscuous?

Imagine tacking that suffix onto any other word and see if it makes sense. If I yelled at a kid riding his bike down the street at break-neck speed and told him to put a helmet on, would you tell me to stop safety-shaming the young lad? If I told a pregnant woman her two-pack a day habit was horrible for her unborn child would I be smoke-shaming her? Or is it possible she should be a little ashamed and that the shame she feels may lead to some introspection?

Sometimes an entire country can feel shame and, if the prevailing modern culture embraces it, can be prevented from recreating the events that caused it. If you do not remember the past you are doomed to repeat it, the old adage goes. But what if you remember the past but lack the concept of shame to put it into context? What if Germans were to remember the past but were told shame is no longer part of the modern lexicon? Well, then The Holocaust and the entirety of World War 2 becomes a stale history lesson with no emotional impact. And if you aren’t sometimes ashamed of your history, or your countries history, simply remembering it wont cause you to NOT repeat it. And if I bring it up I suppose I am history-shaming. The next time I see someone go on a diatribe about Americas past dalliance with slavery I am going to try telling them to stop “History-shaming my people,” and see how that goes over.

Shame is an important concept, a safety tool. Like a governor on a cars acceleration system the notion that you might later be ashamed of your actions can, or should, cause you to slow down and think a little more carefully about what you do next. I once heard a woman say that she lives every day of her life as though “It will all be broadcast on tonight’s 11 o’clock news” for all the world to see. Why would that matter? Because in her hypothetical she wants to be proud of what the world sees her do, her interactions with people, her code of ethics, the raising of her family. And if she didn’t live up to her standards and people saw it she would be ashamed. The fear of feeling shame guides her. Take away that concept, if she is to feel no shame for any of her actions, who would care if it was on the nightly news or not? You’ve removed the rudder she, and a fair amount of people I would bet, use to steer their lives into meaningful ones.

Ruth Fulton Benedict, an anthropologist who studied under Franz Boas (the father of Anthropology) noted that the concept of shame was one of the rare universal conditions found across all cultures and in every country. She concluded that excepted behaviors, and the shame one felt when straying from these socially accepted behaviors, was effective in guiding the standards and behaviors of large groups and societies as a whole.

So if society as a whole establishes guidelines of behavior, presumably because adhering to them benefits the community as a whole, and the fear of being ashamed keeps people generally in line with this set of social norms and rules, what happens to a society when the concept of shame is eradicated?

Look at more specific examples. 40-years ago if you were a single mother you had made some poor life choices and there was a stigma attached to it. Societal rules of behavior specified two parents raise a child. This was for the good of the child and society at large. It was better economically, it was better emotionally for the children, and it provided a more stable foundation on which to build nations. Don’t believe me? That notion sounds antiquated to you because you were raised in a time when being a single mom was no longer associated with any shame? Well, a 2009 study by Cornell University (and there are many others) proves my case:

  • “Researchers reported that children living with married, biological parents have lower levels of risk-taking behaviors. When compared to single-parent and step-parent families, these children reported lower levels of substance abuse such as smoking, drinking and drugs. Less likely to be sexually active when young and more likely to have long-lasting romantic relationships, children in this study were also more likely to start families at an older age and when they were married.”
  • Also noted in the study: More than half off all single mothers lived below the poverty line. In 2-parent households this number is fewer than 1 in 10 families.
  • And I will close with this one last stat: A child living with a single mother is 14 times more likely to suffer serious physical abuse than is a child living with married biological parents

But then one day we decided women who become pregnant with no intention of marrying or staying with the biological father should no longer feel any sense of shame or even entertain the notion this might not be the best of plans. Instead, the term “single mother” became a badge of honor, something to be proud of. “I’m a single mom,” became the line uttered by every woman who wanted people to know how strong and independent she was. So what happened  to illegitimacy when Murphy Brown wandered in and made single moms modern day heroes and removed the concept of shame? This:

illegitimacy

And consider abortion, although this article is not a debate on the pro or con side of it, but still consider that having one used to come with a sense of feeling ashamed. Society in general didn’t agree that having an abortion was some act of courage or protest; nor did they think it was just some hum-drum ordinary procedure some people just opted for and went about their business. There was a stigma attached.

And even if you’re pro-choice you have to admit feeling a sense of shame in this regard still falls in line with your professed word views. For decades pro-choice people have been using the same quote: Abortion should be legal, safe and RARE. How do we ensure they’re rare? By letting people internally debate whether the sense of shame they will feel is worth it. Surely in such a massive decision shame should be a factor, right?

But we removed the stigma and what happened? According to the Centers for Disease Control nearly ¼ of all US women will have had an abortion by the end of 2017. Further, they report that a full 44% percent of these will be REPEAT abortions. 1 in 5 of these will be a third or higher abortion.

There is a clear and unmistakable pattern that when you remove the concept of shame from a behavior you lose all ability to regulate or limit it. I wont even bother digging up the numbers on obesity rates, you can figure that one out with a quick glance around your child’s classroom. But one thing I can guarantee is that the new “Fat Acceptance” movement wont help lower them nor is it doing society in general any favors.

Shame and its societal uses are as old as humans. It’s a tool used to build stable societies, healthy people and global powerhouses. Like anything there can be such a thing as too much shame, people can go overboard; like telling a new mother she’s unhealthy because you think her latest Instagram picture makes her look fat. But there can also be too little. As a culture we in America are busy removing the concept of shame entirely from our lexicon. Taking it right out of our societal-regulation-toolbox. Everything is acceptable, every behavior to be tolerated if not applauded. I for one am ashamed of this new direction were heading.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I Just Don’t Get It

The very people and groups who call everyone racists and sees racial overtones in literally everyone and everything are the very ones who when they first see a person see first the  color, race, religion, clothes and so forth first and do not see the person first.   And they also think that a black person, Asian or gay person are so weak and inept that they can’t think or fend for themselves.  And who appointed these asinine liberals to speak for all groups in the world;  did anyone ask these folks if they need or want these people  to think for them.

I have seen obsessive animal lovers who say they won’t eat meat because it means an animal has to die and it is cruel.  But I have noticed over time that these same people always without fail will make sure the dog or cat food they buy for their animals have “meat” in it.  I don’t get it,  is that meat in the animal foods not really meat – I don’t think so,  I’ve read the label.

I don’t get it when I hear liberals rail against capital punishment as being cruel and inhumane but these same folks are all pro abortion.   So somehow killing and mutilating babies is somehow ok?  Of course the other side is a bit inconsistent also as Pro Life usually means Pro Capital Punishment;   I am in this group I am afraid as if killers are put to death then they will not be hurting other people in the future.

On the lighter side when going to the grocery store to pick up toilet paper I find that it is not called toilet paper,  it is called bath tissue.  Now who among us has ever bathed with and dried off with “bath tissue”?   It is toilet paper folks – always was and always will be.

 

Easter Is Coming Up

Easter is coming up pretty soon (couple weeks). Everyone is buying eggs to color and hide and I kind of like that also; I remember an Easter egg hunt at my Grandma Knights Methodist church in Mascotte FL. What fun, what memories. Of course as an adult I now know the real significance of Easter – a time of sadness that turns into a time of joy as Jesus sacrifices himself for us on the cross.

Waterford Weslyan Church has a huge Easter Egg hunt for children at a local park. This is a way to reach out and do something for the community much as Jesus has reached out to us in saving us. If I can get it to work I am going to try to insert here a YouTube video about Easter.

Dear President Trump

Just a simple request.   Please do not let the Media, Entertainment Industry or Liberal Activists make you back away or water down what you know needs to be done.   In the short time you have been in office it is like a breath of fresh air.    And the folks you have appointed so far are wonderful and just what this country needs to get back on track.

So please President Trump stay positive and know that most Americans are behind you and praying for you and your family.

 

 

I Have Never. . . .

I have never seen so many people do and say so many stupid things as I have as we near the innauguration of Donald Trump.   The “tolerent” left is just going crazy trying anything they can think of to taint the innauguration and all of it is just plain stupid and annoying to those of us who are still sane.

I am thinking that if the media stopped giving these crazies a bully pulpit this whole mess would just fade away very quickly.    But that  is it isn’t it?    The main stream media “wants” to find and print as much as possible to taint Donald Trump and they now don’t ever care if it is true or not.

If the left believed half of the political correctness crap they are preaching then they wouldn’t spew the venom that keeps coming out of their mouths.

And the snowflakes that are supposed to be getting a college education to help them get and keep jobs for their future well being;  the liberal education they are being indoctrinated with will get them nowhere and probably ensure that they live in their parents basement and be on welfare most of their lives.    They are offended and need therapy because they saw Donld Trumps name in chalk on a sidewalk;   do they really think they should never have to see or hear anything that they don’t agree with.   When we were kids we always said “sticks n stones will break my bone, but words will never hurt me” and we went on with our lives knowing that the government can never legislate all of the hurt out of life – it isn’t possible;  and oh yeah other people have a right to their own set of likes and dislikes.  Here is some of the crap our kids are forced to learn or experience in colleges:

  • Students are using “ze” instead of “he” or “she”.
  • Declaration of Independence Is Racist And Students Should Not Be Forced To Learn It
  • There Is An Actual Trauma Center For Millennials Who Can’t Cope With Adult Life
  • All over the country, the term “manhole” is being replaced with the terms “utility hole” or “maintenance hole”.
  • Liberal Writer Wants You To Know Salad Is Sexist And Oppressive
  • According to the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, it is illegal for employers to discriminate against criminals because it has a “disproportionate” impact on minorities.
  • Government workers in Seattle have been told that they should no longer use the words “citizen” and “brown bag” because they are potentially offensive.
  • Med School Assistant Takes Disability Leave After Seeing Noose in Joke Display
  • University of Florida to Offer Counseling for Students Offended by Halloween Costumes
  • Be careful what you say at Virginia Tech. Chances are, it could be a microaggression.
  • Earlier this month a study by Northeastern University, Boston, appeared to conclude that men who smile at women and behave in a warm, friendly, chivalrous manner are guilty of “benevolent sexism” that was, in its own weird way, as harmful as shouting abuse at a woman.
  • Having too many white superheroes in one movie.
  • John Hopkins University allowing a Chick-fil-A on campus is an act of terror against the LGBT community.
  • The Princeton University HR department has largely wiped the word “man” from its vocabulary.
  • The Color Of Park Ranger Uniforms: Apparently, we need to change the color of Park Ranger uniforms because it might frighten illegal aliens entering the parks illegally or something….

OK I can’t include all of the ones I’ve been collecting,  I would need about 20 more pages.

I will leave you with the words of a TV personality from my youth.  “Whether you win or lose be a good sport”.     I do wish the adults of today would learn the lesson we learned as children.

NOTE:  before I leave this I just want to say the Trump was not my choice in the primaries but once he got it I took my lumps and went on with life and yes I did vote for him.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Quotes For You! December 11, 2016

Forgiveness is the answer to the child’s dream of a miracle by which what is broken is made whole again, what is soiled is made clean again. – – Dag Hammarskjold.

If we really want to love we must learn how to forgive – Mother Teresa

“Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.”   Paul Boese quotes

“Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. ”  Luke 23

We are all full of weakness and errors; let us mutually pardon each other our follies  –Voltaire

Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were. –Cherie Carter-Scott

He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass.—George Herbert

Forgo your anger for a moment and save yourself a hundred days of trouble.  — Chinese proverb

“The man who opts for revenge should dig two graves.”  — Chinese proverb

The price of hating other human beings is loving oneself less. — Elderidge Cleaver

Election 2016–Not Over Yet

After Donald Trump won the election I was afraid things would get very boring with no more campaign nonsense in the news and on Facebook or Twitter;  I was even thinking of taking my two Blogs that I dedicate to pro Conservative and anti Liberal sentiment,  and to repurpose them to other content. 

But with the Liberals rioting in the streets and demanding recounts and putting Nancy Pelosi back in the limelight I can see that the run of the mill politicians will give me enough fodder as least for now to keep my blogs in the political arena. 

People are using words as weapons as a way to shut people up from talking about anything they don’t agree with.   College kids are afraid when they hear or see anything they don’t agree with and they get this from the colleges and Professors who all tend to be Liberal and Socialist and are indoctrinating a whole generation of kids who now will not be able to survive in a real world.  They don’t even know which bathroom to use anymore.

We have Liberals who persecuted a bakery because they stood up for their faith and refused to make a cake for a gay couple.  Yet the Liberals being the hypocrites that they are are refusing to work with Trumps wife because of their “beliefs”.  And the news media. . . I rarely listen to the news from them anymore;  I barely even listen to Fox News as they took a giant step to the left this past year.

2016 Presidential Election–Trump

Since I am not a very wordy verbal guy this will be just a short thought. 

This is something I haven’t heard anyone talking about yet but it just might be important to note that Donald Trump won the election while spending much less money than his opponent.  By using social media he was able to get his message out to mainstream America and he was able to garner a lot of support and excitement.  Now this to me means that this signals a new era in political campaigning because now there might be people who would never have run for office because they felt they could not afford it but now will be seriously considering it.  This opens up running for office whether it is local or national to us “common folk” who are not lawyers or rich businessmen.   This nation and everyone in it needs to give President Elect Trump a giant “Thanks”.    And those of us who usually sit back and complain about the way things are need to think about getting involved and improving our nation and communities. 

The Church’s Orphan Mandate

I saw this in an E-Mail I receive called “Laugh & Lift” by Chris Long.

Anyway, I thought  this message was so important that I wanted to share it with everyone.   After getting permission to copy this item here it is:

The Church’s Orphan Mandate
Let this sink in – the top # is children waiting for adoption in the United States and the bottom # is the number of churches in the state.

Untitled

There are more churches in America than there are children who need to be adopted! If every church in the U.S. saw to it to just take care of adopting ONE child, then there would be NO kids awaiting adoption in foster care and there would actually be church families on a waiting list waiting for kids to even be available to adopt. That means the solution is possible – every church can be a part of taking care of orphaned and abandoned kids. The government doesn’t have the strategy and success because it is the mandate of the CHURCH to care for orphans, widows, poor and oppressed – it’s never been the government’s mantle. We can do this church! This is how we change generations!
The children included in this map are awaiting adoption in the foster care system. Because these are the state agencies, there would be little or no fees involved for adoptive families. Contact your local DSS or foster care agency to learn of the waiting children in your state.
SUBSCRIBE INFO
Want to receive a Christian inspirational item AND great clean humor in an email to you each day of the week? It’s easy and FREE! Read all about Laugh & Lift at http://www.laughandlift.com